Curious about anal toys but not sure where to start? You are in very normal company. Anal play is one of those topics that can feel more intimidating than it needs to, mostly because people are rarely given clear, calm information about comfort, safety and what actually feels good.
At Naughty But Nice, we believe Pleasure Is Self-Care, and that includes exploring at your own pace, without pressure or embarrassment. This no-fear Australia guide walks you through the main types of anal sex toys, how to choose a beginner-friendly option, what materials matter, and how to make the whole experience feel relaxed, safe and enjoyable.
Anal Toy Types: What Are Your Options?
Anal toys come in more styles than many beginners expect, and each one has a different job. The best first toy is not the biggest or most advanced one. It is the one that helps your body feel confident, comfortable and in control.
Butt plugs are the classic beginner option. They are designed to be inserted and left in place for a period of time, which makes them great for learning pressure, fullness and arousal without needing lots of movement. Look for a slim neck, a tapered tip and a wide flared base.
Anal beads offer a different sensation because they are usually enjoyed with slow movement. Beginners often like smaller bead sets because they build gradually. They can feel playful and less intense than one solid shape, especially when used with plenty of lube.
Vibrating anal toys add external or internal vibration to the experience. These can be exciting for people who already enjoy vibration elsewhere, but if you are brand new, choose a toy with gentle settings so you can increase intensity slowly.
Prostate toys are shaped to apply pressure toward the prostate. They are often curved and may include handles or external arms. They can be powerful, but comfort and sizing matter, so beginners should start modestly and give themselves time to learn the angle that feels right.
Anal training kits include multiple sizes, usually small to larger. They are helpful if you want a structured progression rather than guessing your next step. The smallest size should feel approachable, not like a challenge.
How to Choose Your First Anal Toy
Start smaller than your ego thinks you need. A good beginner toy should feel easy to say yes to. For most first-timers, that means a small plug, a slim bead set or the first size in a training kit.
The shape matters as much as the size. Choose a tapered tip for easier entry, a smooth surface for comfort, and a flared base that is clearly wider than the insertable part. A flared base is non-negotiable for anal toys because it stops the toy from travelling too far inward.
Think about your goal. If you want to explore gentle fullness, choose a small butt plug. If you want playful sensation and movement, try anal beads. If you are shopping with a partner, choose something that keeps the receiver in full control and creates space for communication rather than performance.
Texture is optional. Smooth toys are usually better for beginners because they are easier to insert, clean and understand. Ridges, bulbs and more dramatic shapes can be fun later, once you know what kind of pressure your body enjoys.
Finally, consider how the toy will fit into your real life. Do you want something discreet and simple? Something waterproof for easy cleaning? Something rechargeable? Something that pairs with another toy? The best anal toy is the one you will actually feel comfortable using.
Materials, Safety and Lube
Anal play should never be rushed. The body needs arousal, relaxation and lubrication. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not self-lubricate, so lube is essential every time. More is usually better than less.
Water-based lube is the most versatile choice because it is compatible with silicone, glass, metal and condoms. Silicone lube can feel longer-lasting, but it should not be used with most silicone toys because it can damage the surface. If in doubt, pair silicone toys with water-based lube.
Body-safe silicone is a popular material because it feels smooth, slightly flexible and easy to clean. Glass and stainless steel can also be body-safe and beautifully smooth, but they are firmer, so beginners should choose smaller sizes and use extra care. Avoid porous mystery materials, novelty-only items, or anything without a proper base.
Clean your toy before and after use with warm water and mild soap or a suitable toy cleaner. Do not move a toy from anal play to vaginal play without cleaning it thoroughly or changing condoms, as that can transfer bacteria.
Listen to your body. Pressure and fullness can be pleasurable. Sharp pain is a stop sign. Go slowly, breathe, add more lube, and remember that stopping is not failing. It is part of learning what works for you.
Top Picks at NBN for Anal Beginners
For a gentle first step, browse the Beginner Anal Sex Toys collection. These options are selected around approachable size, smooth shapes and easier handling.
If you want the classic starting point, explore butt plugs. A small silicone plug or an XS metal plug can help you understand fullness without too much movement. Gem plugs can be cute and confidence-boosting, but choose comfort first and style second.
If you prefer gradual sensation, anal beads are a good place to look. Smaller bead sets let you build slowly and keep the pace gentle. Use plenty of lube and let the receiver control speed and depth.
For people who already know they enjoy vibration, vibrating anal toys can add extra pleasure. Start on the lowest setting and treat vibration as a bonus, not something you need to tolerate.
And because lube is part of the experience, not an optional add-on, keep a good water-based lubricant nearby. It makes every stage more comfortable, from warm-up to clean-up.
Delivery, Privacy and Getting Help
Shopping for anal toys should feel easy, private and pressure-free. NBN ships in discreet packaging, so your parcel does not announce what is inside. If you are in Brisbane and need something quickly, check available delivery options at checkout, including fast local delivery where eligible.
You can shop the full Anal Sex Toys range online, or visit an NBN store if you would rather ask questions in person. There is no awkwardness here. Our team helps people choose beginner toys, lube and safety-friendly options every day.
The no-fear way to start is simple: choose a small body-safe toy with a flared base, use more lube than you think, go slowly, and keep communication open. Anal play is not a test. It is an invitation to explore pleasure on your own terms.