If you're exploring pegging, partnered penetration play, or just curious about harness options, you're in the right place. Choosing your first strap-on kit shouldn't be stressful—it should be exciting. This guide breaks down what you need to know, from harness types to materials, fit, and how to actually use one.
What Is a Strap-On & Who Uses It?
A strap-on is a harness system that holds a dildo, allowing the wearer to penetrate a partner hands-free. It's not reserved for any particular gender, orientation, or relationship dynamic—people of all kinds use harnesses for pleasure, exploration, and intimacy.
The harness itself is usually made from fabric or rubber and fastens around the waist and thighs. The dildo sits in the front, held in place by a ring or pouch. Simple, effective, and designed for comfort during play.
Types of Harnesses: Find Your Style
Waistband Harness
The classic. A simple elastic or fabric band around the waist with a front ring or pouch for the dildo. Lightweight, easy to put on, and works with most body types. Great for beginners.
Full Thigh Harness (Jock Style)
Covers waist + both thighs with supportive straps. More stability during use, better for longer sessions, and distributes pressure more evenly. Takes slightly longer to put on but worth it if comfort is priority.
Panty Harness
Looks like underwear or lingerie—comfortable to wear under clothes, discreet, and designed for sensitive skin. Some are crotchless, some cover the front. Great if you like the aesthetic.
Open-Back / Cheeky Harness
Minimal coverage, maximum freedom. Waist + straps only—no back panel. Cool for aesthetics, less fabric between you and your partner during play.
How to Choose: The Right Harness for You
Consider Your Body Shape
Harnesses fit differently depending on hip width, waist size, and thigh size. A good harness stays in place without digging in or slipping down. Adjustable straps are your friend. Most harnesses come in one-size-fits-most with velcro or snap adjustments.
If you have a curvier figure, full thigh harnesses offer better support. If you prefer minimalist, a waistband harness might be your style.
Think About Comfort
You'll be wearing this for 20–60+ minutes. Choose breathable fabric (vegan leather, neoprene, or cotton blends are common). Padding in high-contact areas (waist, inner thighs) makes a big difference. Adjustable straps let you dial in fit so nothing digs in.
Dildo Compatibility
Some harnesses come with a dildo included. Others are harness-only, and you pick your own. Pros of bundled kits: one less decision. Pros of picking your own: total control over size, shape, and material.
Check the ring size. Most harnesses fit standard dildos, but some specialty dildos have flat bases or unique shapes. Measure before you buy (or buy harness + dildo from the same shop so they're guaranteed compatible).
Materials & Safety
Harness Fabric
Vegan Leather: Easy to clean, durable, looks sleek. Can get warm during longer wear.
Neoprene: Stretchy, comfortable, breathable. Forgiving if sizing isn't perfect.
Cotton Blends: Soft, breathable, best if you have sensitive skin.
Silicone / TPE: Premium option. Extremely durable, easy to clean, feels luxe.
Cleaning & Care
Most harnesses are washable. Wipe down with warm soapy water after use, or hand-wash if machine-safe. Air dry completely before storing. Keeps everything hygienic and extends the life of your harness.
Dildo Materials
For pegging / internal penetration, medical-grade silicone, glass, or metal are top tier. Body-safe materials matter—they're non-porous, easier to clean, and won't cause irritation.
Top Strap-On Kits at Naughty But Nice
For Beginners: The Simplicity Kit
Lightweight waistband harness + beginner-sized soft silicone dildo. Perfect first set. Comfortable, affordable, no learning curve.
For Comfort: The Full Thigh Bundle
Padded full thigh harness in neoprene + medium silicone dildo. Best for longer play sessions. Stays secure, feels amazing.
For Aesthetics: The Luxury Panty Harness
Premium vegan leather with lingerie appeal. Add any standard dildo. Feels like you're wearing something beautiful, not just functional.
For Couples: The Complete Package
Harness + two dildo options (curved for internal, straight for external play) + luxury lube + cleaning spray. Everything you need, nothing you don't.
Browse our full strap-on collection: Strap-Ons at NBN
How to Use (The Basics)
- Fit: Put on your harness. Adjust all straps so it's snug but not tight. You should fit one finger under the waist strap.
- Dildo: Insert dildo into the ring/pouch. Check it's secure.
- Lube: Use plenty of lube on the dildo before penetration. This isn't negotiable—reduces friction, increases comfort and safety.
- Communication: Talk to your partner about depth, angle, and pace. Unlike hands-on penetration, you might not feel the same feedback, so verbal check-ins matter.
- Positioning: Doggy style, missionary, or spooning all work. Experiment to find what feels best for both of you.
Same-Day Delivery in Brisbane
Ordered by 2 PM from Brisbane metro? We deliver same day. Discreet packaging, no awkward moments. Check delivery details.
Final Thoughts
Your first strap-on experience is about exploration, pleasure, and connection—not performance. Choose something that feels right to you, prioritize comfort and safety, and enjoy the experience. Pleasure is self-care.
Questions? We're here. Chat with our team.